Self-awareness consists of digging deep into yourself and discovering why you feel the way you feel and do the things that you do. Finding out what makes you tick can help you make positive changes in your life.
All of us want to be successful in life. But only a few get to live their dreams. Why? It’s because most people are not self-aware. Although a lot has been written about self-awareness, its importance is still commonly overlooked. When you know yourself you enter a world filled with endless opportunities.
What is self-awareness and what is the importance of self-awareness?
It’s about having an unbiased opinion of your thoughts, motivations, and beliefs. In other words, it is the ability to assess yourself objectively.
It is crucial to your personal development because it affects how you view the world and yourself in it. Without it your opinion of the world becomes limited, making it harder for you to make sound decisions in life.
Truly knowing yourself entails discovering your innermost being and understanding the way you think, feel and behave. Without this understanding, you are doomed to be lost in the abyss of your emotions and misconceptions about yourself.
5 Tips to help you increase your self-awareness
1. Reflect – Spend some time alone to get to know yourself and write down your thoughts. Keeping a journal is an effective way to reflect. Write down important events, interactions or even relationships that failed to meet certain expectations. Review your list and seek clarification. Reflecting on yourself also requires you to assess your behaviour in certain situations.
2. Ask for a friend’s opinion – You need to see yourself through the eyes of the people who know you very well. It could be your family, your partner or your best friend. Ask them what they like and don’t so much like about you.
3. Compare your self-assessment and other people’s feedback on you. You need to know if you see yourself as others see you. You will be surprised at how much other people know about you that you probably didn’t know about yourself.
4. Define your goals – Know what your heart truly desires. Make sure that your goals are what you want and not just what others want for you. It is crucial that your ambitions are your own and not somebody else’s. Remember that your goals help in defining who you are and who you want to be.
5. Don’t deny your feelings. Instead, let it out. Know that your feelings are not sins. And when necessary, share those feelings with others. But be careful. If you feel the need to share your feelings with someone, make sure that he/she can handle what you are about to share. You need to be extra cautious in revealing or showing certain feelings that may hurt other people.
Creating self-awareness can happen at any age. Sometimes kids are so intuitive that they can achieve it at a young age as they discover who they are. It can also happen as an adult as you search out the answers to your life. Many times it happens a few times in someone’s life, as they take a break to pause and reflect on who they are and who they have become.
As life goes by so quickly it is often easy to lose track of where you always wanted to go in life. Perhaps you always saw yourself on holidays with two kids and a caravan on the beach. But you realize at a certain point that family hasn’t been your recent focus. Sometimes it is a good idea to reflect on your past to see how you got in the place you ended up. And ask yourself if you’re happy there.
We should not judge others in life.
When judging others, we are judging the self.
Yes, we will have snapshots of outrage and dissatisfaction with others and be stretched as far as possible, and this is a piece of the way toward solving the self.
We as a whole we live in a quick paced world, and we are all encountering some weight, and this weight blinds us to the understanding of others. We often don’t have time to set aside the opportunity to explore and comprehend our identity in this quick paced life.
We are normally activated by other individuals to connect with profoundly shrouded feelings we have to address inside through our reactions to those other individuals.
Learning about yourself through reflection can empower you to become a better person. Self-reflection involves thinking about all of the things that make you happy, sad, scared, mad and so on. Thinking about emotions and what can trigger these feelings might be just the thing to learn about who you are. It is also important to think about all of the things that you like about yourself and the things you would like to change.
Look in the mirror through the eyes of the people in your life.
As an intuitive life coach, I can help you on your journey of self-awareness by being your mirror and showing you who you are and help you to discover who you want to be.